My Compliment

Hey, guys! Okay, so the school year is now finished. I survived my first year of college. WOO! So, now I will have some time to have more regular posts!

My end of the school year wasn’t too exciting. I suffered from shin pain for the majority of the track season, so running was sparse. I did finish out the year though with a 4.0, so that’s a positive!

On the other hand, this was Cody’s senior year of High School, so he has had tons of exciting things going on! So, this post is to talk about Cody, what all he’s been up to, and just a little bit about our relationship for those of you who don’t know our story.


Cody and I have been together for roughly 7 years. We began dating when he was twelve, and I was thirteen. I had never had a boyfriend before, and when Cody first started pursuing me, I really was not interested. He pestered me for the longest time, and I finally gave in after I made a list of all the qualities that my 13 year old mind thought were imperative for a boy to have in order for me to date him, and Cody had all of them.

Some time after Cody and I had been dating I threw that list away because I knew I would never need it again because I knew he was it. We dated (if dating at 12 and 13 is even considered dating) for a solid year and then broke up. But, I was still head over heels for him. Over the years, we would get back together, break up, get back together, and break up. (It was exhausting.) Despite the many break ups (like 15) and every one around me preaching, “GIVE UP ALREADY.”, my feelings for Cody never wavered. I could never bring myself to hatred, or true bitterness. I found, despite the many immature things Cody did in his younger years, that every time he would break up with me, forgiveness trumped all bitterness. The amount I cared for that boy was unbreakable. I knew he was meant to be in my life. I knew every time he would leave, that somehow he would come back to me eventually, and I would be waiting. I had faith that The Lord would bring us back together if it was meant to be. Eventually, we came back together for this final time and we plan on keeping it that way.

Cody and I have been through a lot together. Highs and lows. Wins and losses. We know each other’s flaws and each other’s strengths. Together we’ve made it through break ups, puberty, every cross country and track meet, injuries, proms and homecomings, birthday parties, holidays, going to different high schools and trying to date, dating and being apart while he was finishing high school and I was in college, long nights of school work, family deaths, state championships, hospital visits, and graduations. Lots of stuff.

Above is a picture of me visiting Cody in the hospital 3 years ago. One of the hardest times in his life, and mine too. After dealing with immense pain for a couple of days, Cody’s parents took him to the hospital, and he was diagnosed with a bacterial infection, osteomyelitis, in his pelvic bone. He had to undergo emergency surgery because it was life-threatening.


Cody was in the hospital around the time of my birthday. I remember visiting him in the hospital on my birthday. We weren’t together at the time. I remember on one of my visits, he declared that I was “the one.” (Granted, he was on HEAVY painkillers.) He looked nothing like himself. It was so foreign to see the normally lively, active, and hyper Cody laying in a hospital bed subdued, feeble, and helpless. I remember sitting next to his bed holding his hand. I remember the endless tears I shed while he was in that hospital. I remember bawling my eyes out and being up all night the night he went into surgery. I remember falling on my knees in desperate prayer, praying to God like I never had before. I remember the vivid nightmares I had the very few times I was able to close my eyes to sleep. I remember the feelings of anguish and sickening pain that came with the thought of losing him. Those feelings are beyond explanation and I hope to never feel them again.

By the grace of God, and the amazing work of the doctors, Cody’s life was saved and they were able to spare his ability to run. A true miracle. Cody could not walk for 4 months after his surgery.


Okay, so now 3 years later, more current/happy stuff!! Cody and I have been going steady for…a while now (exact dates are not our thing). I think it is close to a steady 3ish years. We don’t know for sure, but we both agree now that it is extremely irrelevant.

In the picture above, Cody is helping me move into my new house that I will be living in next year during the school year. He is helping me put the futon together in this picture. He is so generous and loves helping me with literally anything. He spoils me. I admire a lot of things about Cody, but his willingness and desire to help others is definitely something I admire the most.


Here is Cody and me at his last high school track meet! Such a happy day. After much toil, strife, and hard work over the years, and one heck of a race, Cody finally earned himself a state title. He claimed the 6A 1600 meter State title, something we both share now.

I’m so thankful that Cody is so supportive of me, so I was so happy that I was able to be there for him on his special day, just like he was there for me when I won my senior year (pictured below).


Below is Cody holding Lily and trying to get her to look at me. Cody and Lily have such a special bond. She absolutely adores him and he adores her. I’m pretty sure Lily likes Cody more than she likes me and my family.

I just wanted to share this picture because it shows how gentle and loving Cody is.

And yes, she actually enjoys being held like that.


And lastly, Cody has finally graduated high school (pictured below)!! Now high school is officially over for the two of us. I don’t know who is more happy, me or him. I think me because now, instead of being 2.5 hours away from me during the school year, he’ll only be 35 minutes away!

Although the graduation was very long, it was so worth it to watch him walk across that stage and complete this chapter in his life.

I wish I could share all of the pictures and memories that Cody and I have made together over the years, but I will save that for another time.

I mainly just wanted to share how proud I am of the man he has become despite all the adversity he has had to overcome, and how grateful and thankful I am to have him in my life. I feel that it is important to constantly learn from your partner as you travel trough life together. Cody has taught me many things over the years. He has taught me how to forgive and love despite faults. He helps me to relax and be more gentle with myself. He helps to bring lightness into the situations in life that I naturally tend to get stressed over. He is my steady hand when I am in panic mode. He lightens the mood when I take things too seriously. He’s gentle, loving, protective, and generous. (Plus, he’s pretty handsome if I do say so myself.)

He is my perfect compliment. That is important to us. We are each other’s compliment. We fit. We help the other to be the best they can possibly be. We do not complete each other. That is not our jobs. That is not our purpose in each other’s lives. Completeness comes only from our individual relationships with The Lord. We are both so thankful that The Lord has been so gracious to have blessed us with our perfect compliment at such an early age.

We are both anxious and excited about this new adventure in our lives with both of us being in college now. I know more exciting times are ahead, and I can’t wait to share them with him.


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